Sometimes you have to pull up the covers and stay in bed

I hired my very first life coach in my mid twenties.

Her name was Bonnie Cohen and we met by phone because that was the only "virtual" option at the time.

I was working full time at a job I hated. I was tired, depressed, anxious and overwhelmed. I slept with my guitar (I was single) and could barely pay rent.

I hired her to help me do more, be more, and produce more.

I showed up to our second call, sat in my bay window, told her how I was feeling and waited for her motivational speech.

I expected her to tell me to buck up and perhaps start training for a marathon.

But instead she said - in a voice like honey

"Sometimes you have to pull up the covers and stay in bed..."

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I was almost... offended.

"Well..." I stuttered. "I can't do that."

Then she said, "If a little girl walked into your apartment right now - feeling like you do - what would you do?"

The answer came immediately, of course.

"I'd wrap her in a blanket, make her a snack, and tuck her into bed."

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I took the next day off from work. The world kept spinning which was also deeply shocking.

This lesson has stayed with me for over 20 years.

Being a Woman on Earth is a deeply intense experience.

Sometimes the best strategy is to take it light. Reorganize your schedule. Hide. Rest.

​Sometimes this is what playing big looks like.